Let's face it, couples argue and will benefit from couple Therapy. A certain amount of arguing is even healthy for a relationship. It helps bring relationship issues to the forefront so that they can be confronted and worked on to strengthen your bond. When these arguments carry on for long periods of time, become a frequent occurrence, or lead to violence they become a problem that weakens and endangers the relationship.
The key to any healthy relationship is communication. When communication breaks down it can put distance between the people involved in the relationship and damage it. If you feel that you are not able to effectively communicate with your partner, couples therapy can help. Couples therapy teaches you to communicate in a more effective manner. Skills like listening and compromising are enforced so that disagreements can be settled in a way that leaves both sides feeling better.
Couple Therapy improves Intimacy
Intimacy issues are another reason a couple may consider therapy. It is a difficult issue to bring up for many people and involves many sensitive topics. A therapist can help by asking the right questions and putting the couple at ease when discussing such a personal subject.
Another reason for couples therapy could be for parenting help. You may have a different outlook on parenting than your spouse. The upbringing of a child is one of the most important responsibilities of a couple and it can lead to problems. If you and your spouse are divorced it can introduce more challenges into the process. A couples therapist can help you reach agreements on how to raise your children and instill effective ways to communicate with each other and with your children.
The Gottman Method
What Is the Gottman Method?
The Gottman Method for Healthy Relationships is a form of couples-based therapy and education that draws on the pioneering studies of relationships by psychologist John M. Gottman and clinical practice conducted by John Gottman and his wife, psychologist Julie Gottman. Nearly 40 years of research have led John Gottman to identify the elements it takes for relationships to last—among all types of couples across all phases of life. There are nine components of what the Gottmans call The Sound Relationship House, from partners making mental maps of each other’s world to learning how to break through relationship gridlock. One of the reigning insights of the science-based approach is that in the dynamics of relationship systems, negative emotions like defensiveness and contempt have more power to hurt a relationship than positive emotions have to help a relationship. As a result, the structured therapy focuses on developing understanding and skills so that partners can maintain fondness and admiration, turn toward each other to get their needs met (especially when they are hurting), manage conflict, and enact their dreams—and what to do when they mess up (because everyone does).